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Hate crimes and LGBTQ+ legislation

Some LGBTQ+ people worry that being out will cause backlash.

  • The average state has at least one law that negatively affects sexual orientation rights and about four laws that negatively affect gender identity rights.
  • Colorado has 25 laws that protect sexual orientation, which is the highest number nationwide.

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    His videos continued to go viral as he started to speak English in them too, like one TikTok posted on March 14th, 2024, receiving over 4.6 million plays and 377,700 likes in two months (shown below, right).

    Going into 2024, other creators on the app started to make edits with @alfonsopinpon_'s videos.

  • Most LGBTQ+ individuals live in California (1.5 million), Texas (1 million), and Florida (898,000). We used the Missouri Economic Research and Information Center's cost of living indices.

    English or Spanish?

  • States with no existing anti-LGBTQ+ laws tend to be located in the northeast.
  • For the second year in a row, Oregon reports the highest percentage of LGBTQ+ people (7.8%), followed by Delaware (7.5%), Vermont (7.4%), and New Hampshire (7.2%).
  • Mississippi and West Virginia tie for the smallest LGBTQ+ population at 4.1%, followed by North Carolina (4.4%) and Illinois (4.5%).
  • LGBTQ+ households with children

    • On average, about 28% of LGBTQ+ families have children.

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    Deciding where to put down roots and start your family can be stressful, especially for LGBTQ+ families. Over three months, the video received roughly 185,500 plays and 7,900 likes (shown below).

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    On February 26th, 2024, TikToker @alfonsopinpon_ posted another video following the premise, receiving over 3.2 million plays and 418,200 likes in three months (shown below, left).

    Then, the heterosexual men freeze in a stare-down with the TikToker. Likewise, states that scored higher in our rankings may have areas with less inclusive local laws.

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    To help you and your partner find a safe and accepting place to raise your family, we compared state safety and cost of living data to nationwide trends.

    An index of 100 is average.

  • Average home values and rent: This information came from Zillow and is incorporated into the ranking to help you find the safest place you can afford. Overall, 5.3% of Idaho's population is LGBTQ+.
  • Utah has the second highest percentage of LGBTQ+ families with children (41%), followed by Oklahoma (39%) and Arkansas (37%).
  • LGBTQ+ families in North Dakota are least likely to have children.

  • Party majorities

    • All of the top seven states have Democrat majorities in both the House and Senate.
    • Only two of the top seven states (Nevada and Vermont) have Republican governors.

    We factored the cost of living into our total scores and rankings to help LGBTQ+ families find a safe place to live that's also easy on the budget.

    An early, viral example was posted by TikToker @nathan.legagnoux on April 17th, 2024, gaining over 5.4 million plays and 436,600 likes in a month (shown below, left).

    On May 23rd, 2024, TikToker @dr1nkz7 posted an edit that received roughly 39.1 million plays and 4.5 million likes in a week (shown below, right).

    English Or Spanish?

    Going into late May 2024, TikTokers started to post memes about the question, "English or Spanish?" referencing the "Whoever Moves Is gay" videos.

    Higher scores are better.

    We’d also like to note that we didn’t look into local laws. The MAP Overall Policy Score comes from the Movement Advancement Project's analysis of LGBTQ+ legislation.

    move if your gay

    Meme
    Status
    Confirmed
    Type:
    Participatory Media, Social Game
    Year
    2024
    Origin
    TikTok
    Region
    United States
    Tags
    whoever move first is gay, gay, if you move youre gay, if you move you're gay, tiktok, tiktok trend, edits, edit, tiktok edits, alfonsopinpon_, english or spanish, alfonsopinpon, whoever moves first is gay, baby youve got something in your nose, steve lac

    About

    English or Spanish? also known as Whoever Moves Is GayDo You Speak English or Spanish?Whoever Moves First Is Gay or If You Move You're Gay, refers to a series of TikTokprank videos posted by TikToker @alfonsopinpon_ in which he asks men in public, "English or Spanish?" and then tells them in their preferred language that whoever moves first is gay.

    Bottom line: Moving may help you find a safe, welcoming community

    Moving may not solve all of life's problems, but it could mean the difference between holding hands in public or withholding affection; between wearing the clothes that make you feel amazing or wearing the clothes that make you blend in; between feeling supported and feeling alone—and so much more.

    We all deserve to feel safe in our communities without having to hide who we are.

    That's more than 19.3 million people. Posted in 2024, the "Whoever moves is gay" videos earned edits and memes, predominantly surfacing in May 2024, following a viral edit posted by TikToker @dr1nkz7 which used the song "Static" by Steve Lacy ("Baby you've got somethin' in your nose / Sniffin' that K, did you feel the hole?").

    Origin

    On February 25th, 2024, TikToker @alfonsopinpon_ posted a video in which he approached two guys in a mall and told them in Spanish that whoever moves first is gay.