Can a straight guy watch gay porn

BEN WAS LYING in bed with girlfriend when she suggested they watch porn together. It was Ben's first exposure to queer porn. "As long as it's between enthusiastically consenting adults, it's on the table.”

Harlan identifies as straight, but watches queer porn as a way of exploring different sexual acts and dynamics.

“In the past, I always assumed I’d be kind of grossed out by seeing a guy give another guy a blow job, right?” Ben admits. In particular, he enjoys watching pegging videos, and says this led naturally to him watching more queer porn. For some straight men, the excitement of watching gay porn comes from exploring forbidden or unconventional fantasies without real-life experimentation.

Does Watching Gay Porn Mean Someone is Gay or Bi?

Not necessarily.

Straight women watching lesbian porn has been well researched, and there tends to be less assumption from society that a straight woman who does this must be queer. And you’re likely to see a broader variety of body types, too.”

Despite the fact that fewer than one in five women report being able to orgasm from penetration alone, a recent study showed that almost 50% of people surveyed don’t think stimulation of the clitoris ‘counts’ as sex, and 40% also felt that cunnilingus isn’t really sex.

Straight men may hesitate to admit watching gay porn due to fear of judgment or misunderstanding. Mark McCormack, a professor of social studies at the University of Roehampton, has studied how consumption of different types of porn can affect men’s sexual identities and satisfaction. “But I was watching with my girlfriend and I could see she was really into it, and that was a turn on.”

Ben isn’t alone as a straight man who has learned about his and his partner’s desires from queer porn.

A lot of mainstream porn focuses on penetration (perhaps with a blow job leading up to it), but being too focused on penetration can really limit the ways we connect with a partner and experience pleasure.

Ben says watching queer porn has made him "feel more relaxed about sex now." “There’s less pressure to ‘perform,’ and it’s more about trying things out," he says.

Attraction, identity, and sexual behavior are complex and don’t always align perfectly. I am sure that you have male friends who masturbate about all kinds of stuff that you’d never be able to predict, so let’s get rid of the idea that there’s anything “wrong” with what you think about.

As a therapist, the interesting aspect for me is WHY people have the fantasies they have.

Sexual curiosity can be complex, and sometimes it simply reflects a desire to explore taboos or satisfy a particular fantasy.

Here are some reasons straight men might explore gay porn:

1. During fantasy I make up for it and enjoy the idea of submissiveness and maleness mixed together. Watching queer porn helped him become more comfortable with this.

It’s about 70/30 straight to gay watching. I won’t go into all the details, but you get the idea. It was something they'd done before, but on this particular night, their viewing took a surprising turn. Just the sex please. “Queer porn tends to be more sensual as well as more consensual,” she says. "After that, we started to incorporate more toys in the bedroom," he says.

Exploring the Curious Truth!

When it comes to sexuality, labels often simplify what is actually a complex spectrum of desires and curiosities. "It’s fun. "Oftentimes, when a person encounters queer sex, it isn’t what they expected, and that can cause them to reassess their prejudices.”

Ben, who's a Millennial, remembers the days "when porn was a magazine you found in the woods.” “Maybe because of that, there’s still a lot of stigma for men to be exploring this, at least for men my age," he says.