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Here’s how to bow out maturely:

• Stay respectful through the end of the date
• Avoid ghosting — it can feel hurtful and dismissive
• Send an honest and considerate message to close the loop

“Thanks for meeting up — it was nice chatting. I don’t think we’re looking for the same thing, but best of luck out there.”

7.

When you work that shift, it’s very quiet. Not sure how to explain the dynamics. I think the guy was around 30 years old?

We started talking and I got the sense he was interested in me. It was always for a big tip.

But we only did it a few times.”

-Kenny 38 Mostly hetero

15. We thought he was joking but found out later he wasn’t.

Yep – he made good on his wager.

It was the first time I had ever experienced something with another guy. Nothing serious. If you’re ‘bottoming’ and feel like you’re missing out on all the action, just remember that your prostate is the male g-spot.

CAMPING IN WISCONSIN

“When I was 25-years old, I took my little brothers on a camping trip to the Northern woods of Wisconsin. But we never discuss our senior year in school. Wishing you all the best.”

If you felt a connection and want to continue:

“Really enjoyed meeting you — I’d love to do this again soon!”

Take It One Step at a Time

Even if the date went exceptionally well, resist the urge to mentally fast-forward to your wedding day.

SCOTCH HOOK UP

“I had a buddy in college who was gay but in the closet. Remember there is nothing wrong with still being unsure of yourself. The idea that ‘bottom’ = submissive, effeminate or ‘more gay’ pervades the LGBTQ+ community. GIRLFRIEND’S BROTHER

“When I was back in high school, I dated this girl from my neighborhood.

Only happened once and it is not something we’ve ever talked about.”

-Doug/Hetro with a secret

20. A lot of what happened is fuzzy so I don’t remember all the details. Let the dialogue flow naturally.

Be Mindful of Physical Boundaries

If there’s chemistry, it’s fine to lean into it — at your date’s pace.